Wise words for a strong june

1. How you treat yourself affects how others treat you. If you treat yourself badly, people will treat you badly. If you treat yourself with respect, you'll only accept respect from people and get it.

2. The only failure is not trying. The only rejection is not asking. The only mistake is not taking risks. Success and failure are just ideas that exist in your mind before you act. After you act, everything has a mix of both because there's always something to improve. The only real failure is doing nothing.

3. No single external thing will solve all your problems. No goal, achievement, asset, or relationship will ever "fix" you. You'll always feel somewhat dissatisfied until you do the internal spiritual work on yourself. That feeling of "wholeness" you're constantly searching for is within you. Nurture it. Stop ignoring it.

4. Be the partner you want to have. If you want a healthy, fit partner, be healthy and fit yourself. If you want an honest and loyal partner, be honest and loyal yourself. In other words, would you date yourself? If not, that's a big problem.

5. The most valuable things in life compound over time. Health, wealth, knowledge, confidence, and relationships take time and intention to build. Consistently working on them might frustrate you during the process, but if you just start and keep going, you'll have a fantastic life sooner than you can imagine.

6. Taking responsibility for your problems reduces more suffering than it causes. People think taking responsibility for their pain will make them feel worse, but it's the opposite. The more responsibility you take, the more power you have to change things. That's because you give power to who/what you blame. When you blame someone else for your problems, you give them power over you. You are allowing them to define and dictate your happiness and well-being. This is completely stupid and not worth it.  

7. If you have to tell someone you're that, you're not that. A rich person doesn't need to show people that they're rich. A smart person doesn't need to tell people that they're smart. A confident person doesn't need to convince anyone that they're confident.

8. Motivation is not the cause of action but the effect. If you want to feel motivated to do something, take the smallest action towards doing it, then let the momentum carry you forward.

9. Love is not the cause of commitment but the effect. You don't wait until you have the perfect relationship to commit to a person—you commit to the person in order to create the perfect relationship.

10. Passion is not the cause of good work but the effect. You don't wait until you find something you love doing—you learn to do something well, and the process of developing competence and agency will cause you to become passionate about it.

11. A happy life is not a life without stress—it's a life of meaningful stress.

12. Don't view exercise as a trade-off—you don't work out to lose weight or "earn" that burger or drink. This mindset makes you lose motivation and quit. Instead, view exercise as an investment. The energy you put in gives you more energy back over time. This is why exercising a little every day is better than occasional intense workouts.

13. Trust people. Most of them are good, and while you might get hurt or embarrassed occasionally, the alternative of distrusting everyone is far worse.

14. If you can't say no, then your yes's mean nothing. We are defined by what we give up, what we sacrifice, and what we reject. If you sacrifice nothing and reject nothing, then you have no identity. You're merely a reflection of the preferences and demands of the people around you. In other words, if you don't decide who you are—everyone else will decide for you.

15. Don't make assumptions about people. You have no freaking idea what they've been through.

16. You think about yourself more than anyone else. Whatever you are insecure about, chances are 99% of the people around you haven't even noticed it. This is because everybody else is too busy thinking about themselves too. This may strike you as depressing, but it's actually liberating. It means people judge you far less than you think. So go easier on yourself.

17. Extraordinary results come from repeating ordinary actions over an unordinary amount of time. Any overnight success is the result of quietly working in obscurity for years or even decades. Attempting to achieve extraordinary results immediately is a recipe for colossal failure.

18. Choosing a partner isn't just about romance—you're also choosing a confidant, counselor, career advisor, therapist, investor, teacher, travel buddy, roommate, best friend, and business partner. And no, Mark Manson isn't saying you should try to make your partner all these things—he's saying whether you want to or not, your partner will eventually become all of these things. So choose freaking wisely.

19. There's no such thing as a bad emotion, only a bad response to an emotion. Every emotion can be used constructively or destructively. One of the most useful things you can do in your life is learn how to channel your negative emotions constructively.

20. You don't have to prove anything to anyone, including yourself. The only way to win status games is to simply stop playing them.

21. Life advice is like clothing. Try it on, and if it doesn't fit, discard it and try on something else. Like clothing, the worst advice will become useless within weeks, while the best advice can last you a lifetime.

22. It's never too late to change. It's never too late. There's always time. The only question is how long you're going to make excuses and pretend there's not.